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Hookups, Hang Outs and Dates - The Sequel
Well, I didn't think it would happen, but it finally did. Why any female would want to hookup, hang out or date a 58-year-old guy with a fourth-grade girl's ponytail is beyond me, but it happened.
Recently a friend and I drove to Montreal, in the same car, mind you, and had a great meal at Bar-B-Barn, one of my all-time favorite restaurants, no matter what the country. On the way back I asked her if this was a date.
After reviewing the modern-day definitions from one of my previous blogs, we agreed that this was a date. We had an agreed-upon day, agreed-upon time and an agreed-upon vehicle to use to get to our agreed-upon destination. Even kids in Missouri call that a date -- believe me, I have researched this! And even women in their forties in Georgia, even ones that I haven't seen in years but who read this blog anyway, call that a date.
It's true. As much I have enjoyed hanging out with some friends over the past few years, I know none of the occasions were dates, even when I took a certain someone to lunch a few times.
And, according to my much-younger friends at my favorite local pub, I've never even come close to hooking up in the past few years.
And the last thing I really thought I'd do is go on a date. But the Bar-B-Barn evening was apparantly a date. Now what do I do? Can you go from dating to hanging out? I mean, if you are dating are you always dating? Are my hookup days over before they ever started because I've been on a date?
This world sure is confusing. Many people don't even have to worry about this subject. But, believe me, once you've dated, it really makes you think. Thank goodness there are readers from California to Texas to Georgia to the Carolinas to Ohio and Canada and several points in between who might be able to keep me straight on this topic.
I'm not going to lose any sleep over it. I'm just going to take each day as it arrives. Maybe today will be a hookup day and maybe the next day will be a hangout day. You just never know -- when you're 58 and you wake up with a smile on your face! Is it a hookup, a hangout or date? Hey, at my age, I'll take any of those three choices and be mighty happy!
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My brother-in-law Ernie, your old fraternity brother, introduced me to the Tavern la Canoe on the West side - an excellent pre-Expos stop. Grace & I went to Montreal one night and ran into some British merchant marine sailors. We went to the Cock & Bull and the John Bull and maybe some other pubs - and drank for free all night long, they would not let me pay (I don't think it was because they thought I was pretty). I took other dates up there during college and always had a good time - at the ordinary places because we were most comfortable there. I dated Diannee who lived in Montreal and she took me to some great places, little holes in the wall places, and we had the best of times/well, before I joined the Marines and saw the world. I always loved Montreal and liked going to the quaint informal spots - like you, Dude. Happy New Year to all the North Country residents and fans and thanks again for your Great blog, Foxy.
(Foxy's note: Miney, you mentioned a great place: Tavern la Canoe! That stop was a must for the teachers from Plattsburgh Middle School when we would go to Jarry Park to watch Expos games. Guys like Ray Lalonde, Mal Cutaiar, Al Zaferakis, Mike Haley, Paul Dingman, and, yes, Foxy Gagnon hoisted many a Molson at that place. One night we never even made it across the road to the game! We just watched it on TV from la Canoe!)
Posted by: Miney Rowlson | January 3, 2007 7:36 AM
What? There are 2 million restaurants in Montreal. I would have expected something a little different from the great Foxy Gagnon.
Oh, ok...sorry. I guess I went over the top this time. Once in a while, in the interest of what I feel is best for my friends, I engage my fingers before I consider the insignificance of my opinion.
(Foxy's note: Well, Kern, I appreciate your input -- and I'm always interested in guidance in this area. But I guess I figure I don't need some fancy restaurant to impress a girl. I don't need fine wine, violins and ten eating utensils next to fine china. I figure I will just impress her by being myself. If that's not good enough for her, then she's not meant for me in the first place. What do you think?)
Posted by: Kern | January 1, 2007 6:59 PM
Kern, lighten up on the Foxman, the Bar B is a fine eatery and so what if there isn't any real glassware. As long as the two of them had a good time who are we to tell them where to go.
And speechless, Foxy, I find that hard to believe.
Posted by: Chris Heckard | December 31, 2006 12:25 AM
Congrats on your date, and yes it sounds like a date to me. She is a good, respectable, fun lady! Glad to see you had fun together. Happy New Year!
Posted by: Laura | December 31, 2006 12:13 AM
The Bar-B-Barn? You bring a woman to Montreal for your first date and go to a place called the Bar-B-Barn! Do you go to the Slop-n-Slurp for drink before dinner? I know the Bar-B-Barn is excellent, but on a "first date", "evening out", or "night out on the town"? Next date, really impress her by taking her to a place that actually has glassware and place settings. Well, hopefully, the rest of your evening at that bar with the mechanical bull set the mood!
I am so glad I am an ineligible wedded man!
I hope everyone is having a very safe and happy Holiday Season!
(Foxy's note: Kern, I am seldom left speechless ... )
Posted by: Kern | December 30, 2006 9:27 AM
Chris suggested "evening out" and I think that sounds much tamer and, yes, safer than my old favorite, "night on the town," which seems to imply a little too much fun... with a hangover involved. I don't have "nights on the town" anymore since I've been sober for 20 years (last Wednesday), but I sure do remember that's what it was called. For a night on the town, "hanging out" was acceptable, a "date" was optional and "hooking up" was just plain a bad idea.
Thanks for a giggle on this dark, stormy day in Texas - we're currently under a tornado watch.
Happy New Year!
Dianne in Austin
Posted by: Dianne Scott | December 29, 2006 3:28 PM
Way to go Foxy. Here's another term to add to the mix, "evening out". Sort of hanging out but not a date. Have a great time on your next evening out. I would sugggest just taking one day at a time.
Happy New Year
(Foxy's note: Good one, Chris! The term "evening out" sounds pretty safe!)
Posted by: Chris Heckard | December 29, 2006 10:39 AM
Hey Foxy - First and foremost, congratulations on your date... you're a brave man! Not much on technology and after some hesitation, I've decided to join in the frey after some prompting from one of your regular bloggers to check it out. Perusing the archives I realize now what I've been missing! I guess we all get a little nostalgic at this stage in life... so the names, places and events I've been reading about certainly bring me back. Thanks for the memories and I look forward to continued walks down memory lane!!
(Foxy's note: Always great to have a new member of the blog club. Hope you'll become a regular! You'll be in some pretty heavy company, but, judging from your bloodlines, you'll have no problem joining right in.)
Posted by: "Smell" | December 29, 2006 9:25 AM
Sounds like a date to me! Way to go Foxy! Happy New Year to you and your family! Hugs from Texas!
Posted by: Sandi (Lechowit) Mueller | December 29, 2006 9:22 AM
I'm pleased to hear that you went to the Bar-B-Barn in Montreal and not the Barbie Bar in Montreal. The difference is probably about 50 dollars a dance.
Posted by: rubble | December 29, 2006 8:35 AM
Oh, Foxy, you devil! I'm making it my New Year's resolution to give up on National Inquirer and Star, et al .... No more Brittany, JLo, Brangelina, TomCat. No, I'm sticking to "On The Sly"!
Mon Dieu! Montreal is the Happening place to go! I dare not get into my wild youthful adventures in this greatest city in the northeast to party! The Queen E, savoring a Rias Mild Corolla Cigar (yes, the REAL Cuban variety - so smooth). So many other fantastic ethnic restaurants on Peel and Crescent Streets.
You go for it, Foxy! Bon chance and a Happy New Year 2007 to you and your family.
Lynda
Posted by: Lynda (Bouyea) Bevins | December 29, 2006 1:42 AM
Holy smokes foxy,what the hell did you have for dessert!
hey you missed quite a show they other night... Carr and "OldTimer" were in seats 1 and 2... ordering
shots.. (of beer!) so there what alot of washing to be done!....
Does your friend have a friend?..maybe you could double date/hook up/hang out.. with carr!
Posted by: the carver | December 29, 2006 12:49 AM
Foxy,
I'm glad you had a date but now I'm confused.
I thought a date was June 5th or May 9th or whatever. I thought a hookup was how I got power to my trailer, and a hangout day, I don't even want to go there.
I do know that the Bar-B-Barn is outstanding, good choice.
Posted by: Jim Carr | December 28, 2006 10:36 PM