The Other Can Be Another, Or You!
As Snoop Dogg would say, I walked into a local eatery “just a slinging my hair” recently and had a personal epiphany that I just had to share with those of you who wander with Wiley from time to time. I know before I go on I probably need to clean up the Snoop Dogg reference. No, he most likely wouldn’t refer to any eating-place he would frequent as “a local eatery.” More importantly, as some of you have already laughingly considered, I am a shaved headed man (not bald, so don’t start no mess), so how would I be “just slinging my hair.” Well, I wouldn’t, it is just a saying that I like. Relax!
Anyway, as I enter this local eatery (me and my pretentious language) I am greeted by one of the most personable hosts I have ever met or known at a restaurant. He is quite gracious, witty, charming, obviously intelligent, and straight up funny! He is also not as tall as most. I interacted with this dynamo of personality and then watched him engage the rest of the room, energizing those who were available to receive that energy. If stature is just as significant as height, this cat was the tallest person in the room, and often is whenever I have seen him.
What must it be like to be the only one reflecting your reality in a larger moment of multiple people interactions, like at a mall, ballgame, restaurant, school situation, etc? What type of energy does it take to move throughout the day only letting the positive looks, communication, whispers, rumors, suggestions attach to you, deflecting the negative glances, dysfunctional dialogue, gossip, and ignorance away with little effort? Many of us have truly reflected upon that time when we experienced a moment of being that host, of being the “Other.” Usually it is an experience that is perspective altering, if not life changing. Have you had one of those moments? If so, what happened? If it changed you, how so?
Postscript: Interestingly enough though, we should keep in mind that for many people, an “Other” moment is a lifetime experience.