The Urgency that Accompanies Aging!
I was having a conversation with one of Plattsburgh's most engaging couples recently and we got on the topic of age. This was on the heels of a conversation I had recently had with a local politician about age as well. Both of these chats brought me to thinking, is there an urgency that accompanies aging? Do we panic as certain birth dates approach? While we celebrate 13 (finally a teenager), 16 (in some states the legal driving age), 18 (the right to vote-die for country), 20 (no longer a teenager), 21 (certified adulthood status-liquor purchasing), and 25 (the age some L.A. nightclubs insist is viable for male admittance), what are the ages that find us looking the other way?
Does American society endorse urgency with aging? I have identified some of the aging milestones that we celebrate in American society. What are the aging milestones that Americans find problematic? Are there certain fears that arise as we approach certain ages?
I remember when I was entering my early twenties and was thinking I should have been already out of my mother’s house (I actually had moved out once, but then moved back). I was feeling like a loser because I was still living at home, “with my mother.” How uncool was that? I was thinking it would be such a turn off to the women I would meet, even though I was doing the college thing, and was creative enough to make sure I could always have “private time” from time to time.
I remember when I was approaching my late twenties and became preoccupied with whether or not I should be in love and/or married. What a trip! I understood the reality of women and birthing children as a motivating factor for those who desired children to want to make it happen sooner than later. But for me, exiting my twenties shouldn’t have come with a sense of urgency to love and/or marry, should it?
I remember as I was entering my mid thirties being preoccupied with the old adage that you should make at least your age equivalent in your annual salary (if you are 35 years young, then you should be making $35,000), or was it making twice your age (if you are 35 years old/young you should be making $70,000). Of course since they were both cautionary tales I had heard often, the “twice your age” tale was extremely daunting and had me wondering when I would pull that off, if ever.
What do you remember about your urgency to age, or the consequences you were apprehensive about relative to aging?